Love is continuous flow without any limits

“I have decided to stop saying yes to people and situations that don’t support any well-being. Instead, I will say yes to my happiness, and yes to my growth, and yes to all the people and things that are inspired me to be authentic and whole, while at the same time accepting me just I am.”

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To create the life of your dreams, the time has come for you to love you. Focus on your joy. Do all the things that make you feel good. Love you inside and out. Everything will change in your life, when you change the inside of you. Allow the universe to give you every good things you deserve, by being a magnet to them all. To be a magnet for every single thing you deserve, you must be a magnet of love.

The art of acceptance…

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To move forward in life you must first accept the reality of what it is. To wish that things were different, or to pretend that they are, gets you nowhere. Today you have all the possibilities in front of you to move in the direction of your dreams.

Radical Acceptance says that life works better when you accept people for who they are, without judgment.  Once you have done that you can then act accordingly. What does that mean?

How many of us see, not the person in front of us, but the person we expect to see.  Then we act as if they are how we expect to see them.  And, sure enough, we come to grief.

Come to know them through their actions, accept without judgment and act accordingly.  If the other is a controlling person, then I know I will either need to let go my need for control or be prepared for a battle of wills.  If the other is chronically late, then need to invite them early to events, be prepared to start without them or wait.  In any case, to get upset is to pretend they are someone different.

”I started to discover the meaning of happiness when I started to discover–and practice–the art of acceptance”. When I started to accept life for what it was and I started to accept whatever situation I was in as the way things were, I started to see that my happiness depended on my own attitude.  When I started focusing on getting the most out of my life the way it was rather than trying to turn it into what I thought it should be, I started to realize that I was, indeed, becoming a much happier person.”

Believe in you!

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You may have heard from some so-called friends that what you have been striving for is not within your reach. Have you ever heard words like these or maybe they have come to you from supervisors through their annual review of your work performance. The question is, do you believe them and alter your dreams or goals?

Throughout the centuries, so-called significant or important people have told people of various walks of life, that they have no chance to succeed. In a lot of cases, many people cower from these kind of comments and start to believe that they cannot succeed, or that they do not have the intelligence or where with all to accomplish a goal or a dream.

If you choose to believe these types of comments, you are engaging in what is often called a self-fulfilling prophecy, or, in other words, you start to believe what others say about you. If you do adopt as real or true what others have said about you, this means you have given control of your life, your destiny, to the opinions, thoughts and failings of others.

“You are the only real obstacle in your path to a fulfilling life.” Les Brown

Two years ago, I happened to meet a lady at a local craft market who wanted to branch out further in her life by starting to expand her own, small home business. She worked daily for a group home as a day provider but wanted to establish better control of her destiny. She was hesitant to go it alone, afraid that she wouldn’t be able to make enough money to quit her boring day job. Her biggest challenge to succeed was not her ability; it was her belief in herself.

For her, most of her friends and acquaintances doubted her ability to be a business owner, or suggested to her that she should just forget about her business idea and keep her job telling her that jobs were hard to come by. Fortunately for her, though, she did not want to totally give up her idea. And, while she continued to have nagging doubts about what she really wanted to do, her goal was totally supported by a new business acquaintance.

Her business acquaintance gave her encouragement, made time available whenever she needed questions or suggestions, or just to talk about business issues. And, though she had all the right plans and ability to succeed, she remained her own worse obstacle. The good news is that she continued even though struggling with self-doubt but persevered and quit her day job to go it alone last year.

What she conquered was more than issues around developing her business; she conquered her own apprehension, her own self-doubt. She succeeded because she did not listen to the naysayers; she succeeded because she overcame the greatest obstacle – her own belief in herself.

Allow yourself

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Allow yourself to dream,
And when you do dream big

Allow yourself to learn
And when you do learn all you can

Allow yourself to laugh
And when you do share your laughter

Allow yourself to set goals
And when you do reward yourself as you move forward

Allow yourself to be determined
And when you do you will find you will succeed

Allow yourself to believe in yourself
And when you do you will find self confidence

Allow yourself to lend a helping hand
And when you do a hand will help you.

Allow yourself relaxation
And when you do you will find new ideas.

Allow yourself love
And when you do you will find love in return

Allow yourself to be happy
And when you do you will influence others around you.

Allow yourself to be positive.

And when you do life will get easier.

Ways to Connect to the Confidence within You.

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Working with a variety of people from all walks of life has given me some insight into the process of success.  Regardless of our background, skills, experience, or attitude, we can’t be successful until we feel confident about who we are and what we’re doing.  It’s one of those cart before the horse things, since we tend to think that being successful will give us confidence.  In fact, feeling confident FIRST will allow us to experience success and the achievement of our goals.  Here are some ways to connect to the confidence within you.

1.   Be aware that confidence comes from inside, not outside.
You can’t use others as a yardstick.  Other people take their cue from you.  If you act confident, people will have confidence in you.  If you are hesitant or timid, no one will be able to put their trust in you.

2.   Start with your strengths and we ALL have them.
Make a list of your strengths, no matter how silly the list may seem at first glance.  If you can boil a ‘mean’ pot of water or touch your nose with your toes, let yourself get in touch with how you feel about that.  That feeling is known as confidence.

3.   Allow the memory of confident times to be your trigger.
It doesn’t matter if it happened in the 2nd grade–remembering a time that you were on top of the world, if only for a moment, can be all you need to feel confident here and now, in this situation.

4.   Confidence is like rabbits:  it multiplies exponentially.
Once you start feeling confident about everything you do well, you start looking for other areas you feel confident in.  You also start feeling confident about things you haven’t done before.  You’ll be able to more honestly assess your skills and expertise and give yourself the opportunity to succeed.  Allow the feeling to multiply just like all those bunnies in that commercial where the gentleman has to get approval for a check.

5.   Maintain an attitude of gratitude.
Gratitude puts and keeps a smile on your face.  What’s the first thing you notice about confident people?  They’re smiling.

6.   Identify your rules for feeling confident, then rewrite them!
If I asked the question “What must be in place in order for you to feel confident?”,  I can guarantee that you will have a long list of conditions that must ALL be in place in order for you to feel confident.  If I asked you who wrote those rules, you would answer “I did,” although it may take you a moment or two to realize that fact.  If you wrote the current set, take the initiative and rewrite your rules.  Make them simple, stated in the positive, and totally in your control. There is nothing more in your control than your thoughts.

7.   Hang out with confident people.
Confidence is contagious.  Actually, all feelings are contagious.  Which group will make you feel better?  One that exudes strength, confidence and positivity?  Or one that is constantly seeing the worst that could happen, fearful of trying anything new, afraid to be embarrassed?  Hang out with the one that makes you feel like you can accomplish anything you want!

8.  Completion equals confidence.
Finishing anything at all gives you confidence.  The knowledge that you can put your mind to something and do it is all that is required to feel confident.  Look around and finish everything you see unfinished.

9.   Only you can kill the feeling of confidence.
Just as you can’t find confidence outside of yourself, no one else can stop you from feeling confident.  Have you ever noticed that really confident people are oblivious to your opinion of them?  No matter what you’ve done, it’s only YOUR opinion that matters.

This is just a list. You may have other list. Just try to bring it in action. One more thing: make sure your new list is divided by OR’s, not AND’s. Think over it.

Happy First Blog Anniversary

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Today is 14th March and there is something special in this date. Exactly one year ago, on this day I hit the button “Publish” for the first time! At the time I didn’t really know what I was doing. My blog is now 1 year old and it’s an anniversary day. This one year time period was learning phase for me.  It’s been a fantastic year and a great learning experience. Over the course of a year I have covered numerous subjects like inspirational and motivational quotes, poems and social stuff, with the goal of publishing something every week on average.

During this period of time I learned how to put your thoughts into words. I had met different bloggers. Each blogger has their own style of writing. There are some blogger who made good impact on me because of their way of expressing thoughts.

I would like to thanks all my blog followers; supporters who continue show their love towards my blog by liking my post as well as providing comment on my post.  Your support always encourages me to write post. I would like to give special thanks to Pratik of Aimless who is the person behind creating this blog. Thanks to Erika Kind of I’m Free who always supports me because she knows what guidance and support need to give to new blogger from senior blogger.

Let’s move to next phase of blogging journey and I know you all with me.  Some new blogger friends will join us in this journey. Now my responsibility is to write more good things. Keep writing and stay blessed friends.

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Love one another as I have loved you

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“This is my commandment:  love one another as I have loved you”

This is surely one of the most powerful and most challenging lines in all of scripture.  Note that god does not say, “This is my suggestion.”  He does not say, “This is my recommendation.”  He does not say, “Here’s a pointer that I think will help you out.”  He says, “This is my commandment:  love one another.”

And he goes on to spell out just what kind of love he’s talking about.  He’s not talking about the kind of love you see in the movies or on the soap operas.  He’s talking about the kind of love he showed when he stretched out his arms on the cross and gave his life.  “Love one another as I have loved you.”

Love one another.  Care for one another.  Affirm one another.  Speak well of one another.  Avoid negative humor — humor at the expense of someone else.  Avoid sarcasm.  Avoid “put-downs.”

When you wake up each morning, say to yourself, “I’m going to be a person who speaks love, affirmation, and praise.  I’m going to build others up, not tear them down.  In this cold, impersonal world, I’m going to dare to be different.  I’m going to be someone who loves.”

There is tremendous power in this kind of love.  There is unspeakable joy in loving others, and in being loved by others, with this kind of love.

Gratitude towards life

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When I go out jogging in the morning, I sometimes notice how much weather influences people’s response to life and to one another.  When it is gray and rainy, many people look unhappy.  When the sun is out and the temperature and humidity are comfortable, people are smiling and calling out to one another, “Hello isn’t it a lovely day.”  For me, a lovely day is any day I wake up.  If I’m awake, I’m grateful to be alive and to have another day to experience life.

I speak as a realist, not an optimist.  I know that the longer I live, the more problems I will have.  So what is there to be grateful for?  I am grateful every day for the opportunity to have more problems, to learn how to live with them and rejoice in them.  That is enough, but there is more to be thankful for.  Every day is another opportunity to love and interact with God’s creation, and on some days to be a co-creator.

The weather or the events of the day do not determine whether I am grateful for my life on that day. If your gratitude depends on what life gives you or what other people do for you or to you, you will be disappointed more often than you are grateful.

But you can learn to feel grateful by rethinking your attitude towards life.  First, remember that contentment lies in giving.  If you know that giving is better than receiving, then you can feel grateful for what you are able to give others.  This does not mean you ignore your own needs.  You will decide what to give and how to give it, and then at the end of the day you will be grateful for having had the chance to give in your own way.  Remember, we all have something to give, and our ability to give is not related to our finances or physical strength.

Second, be grateful simply for being alive.  When you are grateful for life, pure and simple, your life becomes one you can be grateful for.  That may strike you as circular or even backward logic, but your attitude really does have an effect on how things work out.  When you can’t change your life and other way, you can still change your attitude. When you do, your life changes. You find more chances to love, and you will be surprised to se how much more love is returned to you.

 

I’ve learned…

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If I’ve learned anything from life, it’s that sometimes, the darkest times can bring us to the brightest places. I’ve learned that the most toxic people can teach us the most important lessons; that our most painful struggles can grant us the most necessary growth; and that the most heartbreaking losses of friendship and love can make room for the most wonderful people.

I’ve learned that what seems like a curse in the moment can actually be a blessing, and that what seems like the end of the road is actually just the discovery that we are meant to travel down a different path. I’ve learned that no matter how difficult things seem, there is always hope.

And I’ve learned that no matter how powerless we feel or how horrible things seem, we can’t give up. We have to keep going. Even when it’s scary, even when all of our strength seems gone, we have to keep picking ourselves back up and moving forward, because whatever we’re battling in the moment, it will pass, and we will make it through. We’ve made it this far. We can make it through whatever comes next.

 

 

Forgotten Truths About Happiness

All of us would like to be happy. We would like to find joy and satisfaction in everything we do. In this crazy world of today, many of us seem to have forgotten how amazingly easy it is to make constant choice of being happy. Here are few forgotten truths about happiness.

  • Gratefulness for how lucky we are despite the challenges we face is the key to reaching true happiness.
  • Long lasting happiness is usually got from our experiences and memories, not material things.
  • Happiness can be found in slowing down, listening to others and reconnecting with nature.
  • Peace + Love = Happiness
  • Don’t let regret swallow the precious times in which you could feel happy instead.
  • Smile
  • Happiness doesn’t occur by chance, it’s a constant choice we have to make, every second of every day.

So keep happiness to your surroundings. You will love this life and world when you are happy. You are responsible to your own happiness.

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